Does the weather affect how we feel about ourselves or our relationships? It’s easy to “blame” what’s going on our there for how we think and feel but we have more control over mind than we believe. In fact one belief system – that of Buddhists – is that problems don’t exist outside our mind. I often hear couples say that if only she or he would change in some way then all would be well in their relationships. In fact we are all interdependent. I appreciate that the interdependence idea is hard to believe sometimes especially if he or she has behaved very hurtfully towards ourselves. Hurtful behavior may be a “cry for help” or a symptom of a poorly relationship. It’s the system that needs examining or exploring. Like that of an engine. The parts depend on each other.